In the forth and final section of Decision Making and the Will of God (which I will review in two posts), the authors turn to explaining how their wisdom view of guidance and decision making applies in real life situations. In particular, they address the “Big 3″ of marriage, vocation, and education. The issue of giving is also addressed.
Throughout this section, the book refers to the couple highlighted in the first section of the book who managed to be facing all of the “Big 3″ at the same time. My review will focus more on the ideas presented however.
Marriage and the Wisdom View
In the traditional view, the pressure for decision-making regarding marriage is unbelievable. After all, if there’s an individual perfect will for us, then there is only one person that is eligible to be our spouse, and marriage is definitely something you don’t want to make a mistake on. In addition, a person’s “intended spouse” could marry someone else, thus making it impossible to follow God’s will. Even worse, a mistake regarding marriage cannot be undone (divorce being prohibited in most situations), and thus after making a wrong decision (or having one made for you) it is impossible to re-enter God’s perfect will.
The first issue regarding marriage that needs to be considered is whether we should get married at all. Both Jesus and Paul state that singleness is a valid, and in some ways, the preferred, option. However, according to Jesus, singleness is not for everyone: “not all men can accept this statement, but only those to whom it has been given.” Paul echoes this in 1st Cor. 7, and so it appears that scripture teaches that there is something like a “gift of singleness” and that people who possess it (presumably this included Jesus and Paul) should stay unmarried. The basis however, is not God’s individual will, but rather spiritual expediency. As, 1st Cor. 7:35 puts it: “This I say for your own benefit; not to put a restraint upon you, but to promote what is appropriate and to secure undistracted devotion to the Lord.”
The 2nd question concerning marriage is who we should marry. It should not be addressed until the first issue (whether or not to marry) is made. The book cites 2 Cor 6:14-16, amongst others, to show that Christians are to marry other Christians. This is a limitation, but it is not something that tells us specifically who to marry.
The book then gets into what one should consider when looking for a potential spouse:
1. Moral and Spiritual Characteristics - Men and women should look for those who demonstrate that they are able and willing to fulfill marital responsibilities, and the proposed spouse would be someone that it would be relatively easy for them to meet their commitments to. For example, a woman should not marry someone if she does not think it would be easy for her to submit to him.
2. Spiritual Console - People should seek the advice of mature Christians in this regard.
3. Common Sense - Things such as individual goals (if one person wants to be an overseas missionary and the other doesn’t, there might be a problem), interests (preferably one would not hate things the other really likes), and compatibility (desires for children, how to raise children, concern for possessions, etc) should not be overlooked.
I have to say that I found this section a bit weak, but perhaps I just want more details and specific methodology than is really available.
Vocation and the Wisdom View
The book then turns to addressing how decisions pertaining to a person’s vocation should be made, with a particular emphasis on ministry positions. According to the traditional view, the decision to enter the ministry (that is, full time “Christian work” jobs such as pastor or missionary) should not be made unless that person has felt a call to do so.
The authors object to that view. They note that the examples of people being called to ministry in scripture was by the means of supernatural revelation (audible voice of God, or through a prophet), which is not what is often meant by “call” today, which refers to an inward sense. Instead, a person should enter the ministry if they posses the biblical qualifications to do so (such as are found in 1 Tim 3 and many other places) and if they have the desire to do so for the right reasons.
The authors acknowledge that in fact all believers all called to ministry, whatever their job happens to be. The moral will of God as pertaining to our vocations can be found in scripture. There is a long list in the book that covers what that will is. It includes such things as working diligently and to show respect even to unreasonable masters. The basis of choosing a job should be wisdom and spiritual expediency. The question to ask, as the book puts it is:
Given my aptitudes, abilities, gifts, desires, and opportunities, which vocation would offer the greatest potential for my service to the Lord and my obedience to His moral will?
I found the section on vocation to be quite sound biblically, and far superior to the method some employ of having to “hear a call” before they can do a certain job (such as be a missionary).
Considerably less ink is spent on the third of the books’ big three decisions, education. The same guidelines apply to it that applied to vocations; choices should be made with wisdom on the basis of spiritual expediency.
Giving and the Wisdom View
Besides the “big three” issues, the authors specifically address the subject of giving. In their minds, the Traditional View sometimes distorts the scriptural view of giving. The first issue is the tithe. The book points out that there were at least two different tithes in the Old Testament. The first was ten percent of all one’s possessions (Lev 27:30-33) and was used to support the Levites and the temple ministry (Num 18:20-21). A second tithe was for a sacred meal in Jerusalem (Deut 12:17-18). It is less clear if there was a third tithe every third year for the poor (Deut 12:17-18), or if that is combined with the second tithe. The tithes functioned as a tax system, and they were required.
The command to tithe however is not found in the New Testament. Neither does the church act as a temple storehouse nor does it need a tax-like system. As the authors put it, “Believers today couldn’t obey Malachi 3:8-10 if they wanted to.” In contrast, the church is supported as each member gives “as he has purposed in his heart; not grudgingly or under compulsion (2 Cor 9:7).”
The traditional view also leads to “Faith Promise” type giving, where believers commit to giving a set amount of money beyond their tithes based on what they think God is calling them to do, and trust that God will provide this money so they can give it. This violates 2 Cor 8:12 - that a person should give according to what they have, not what they don’t have, as well as being a direct result of the traditional view, which the authors reject.
There is then a long lists of biblical principals upon which we actually should base are giving. Giving is according to various places in 2nd Corinthians characterized by: joy, cheerfulness, liberality, eagerness, willingness, perseverance, and integrity. The gift is not determined by the amount, but by its cost (2 Cor 8:2) and the greatest threat to giving is not poverty but covetousness (2 Cor 9:5). To quote the book, “The question should be … not ‘How much can I give?’ but, ‘How much can I give up?’”
I found the giving section pretty convincing, but then again I already shared this view, so perhaps I was biased a bit.
Next week: When Christians Differ
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